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Is It Smart to Workout with Your Significant Other?
Written by Cody Burgener

“I have been fired only one time, and that one person was my wife.”

This is a quote that I have heard my Dad say several times. If you know my Dad, you should know that he is the best at what he does. People don’t fire him. Hearing him say this got me thinking; are there really only disadvantages to working out with your partner…or are there some advantages to it? Personally, I think it is completely fine to workout with your lovebird, but there are definitely some things that you need to avoid. Here I will share with you the “do’s” and “don’t’s” while working out with your significant other. All of these “experiences” come from people within the Invictus community and myself.

Lets start off from a female’s perspective. The one thing that every girl has said to me was, “don’t ever let your significant other try to coach you.” It is just going to piss you off the whole entire time. As every guy knows, if you piss off your lover somewhere outside your home, you know when you get home it is not going to be pretty. So guys be smart, don’t coach your lady friend.

This next one is one I learned on my own. How many of you have had a coach count down ‘3…2…1…GO!’ after you have dropped a weight because you have been resting too long? Doing this once to your significant other might, just might, be okay. Don’t ever do it twice. You might get a response like, “I know how to count” – followed by a deathly stare.

Let’s move on to a more positive note. Encouragement. Encouragement is great. Always throw in “You are doing awesome”, “keep up the good work”, or “keep pushing, you can do this.” Always remember that saying just a little is sometimes the best thing to do. Don’t overdue your encouragement because you can start to become annoying, especially if you are saying the same thing over and over again.

One of the smartest things to do if you end up working out with your significant other is to not take it too seriously. You don’t want to go into a workout trying to be competitive with one another. In the long run, someone is probably going to be upset up about losing or be upset at the winner for bragging too much. Go out and workout to enjoy each other’s company and have a good time – not to see who is better than the other.

Now let’s look at the other side of the spectrum; the benefits of working out together. One of the benefits of working out together is that your significant other gets to see some of the movements you can perform, how you perform them, and how much weight you can lift. No matter male or female, it is an attractive sight to see the opposite sex workout. Another thing that couples “find attractive” is seeing their lover sweat. It is a look you rarely see of each other, but it is a look the attracts each other every single time.

You also might get to see their hair all messy. I don’t know about you, but I like it when my girlfriend’s hair looks like a lion’s mane. It’s pretty awesome looking.

The final benefit I am going to talk about comes after the workout is done. It is getting that sweaty kiss after you just worked your butts off. For me, it is always a good feeling to have someone there to say great job on the workout, and then to top it off with a big fat, wet kiss.

In conclusion, working out with your significant other is not a bad thing; it can actually be a great activity to do together if you’re smart about it. Do not coach each other. Treat your couple’s workout as a time to enjoy each others company. Make memories together instead of arguments. 😉

  • Nichole DeHart

    Hahaha best article ever!

  • Kyle Blackman

    agreed 110% Nichole!

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  • Bob Spanbauer

    “Seeing your lover sweat” – Cody, is some strong stuff

  • Lucas Parker

    …what if the guy’s face looks like a lion’s mane?

  • Great article Cody! I’d only suggest adding something on “humility.” My wife is a BEAST and she is routinely kicking my ass at Neighborhood CrossFit up here in Ramona. It’s humbling and motivating all at the same time. Thank God she hasn’t mastered DUs or high-rep pull-ups. But I’m sure it’s just a matter of time.

  • trick

    you should have a sermon every sunday on T.V.

    great article! -Kent

  • Jessica Montgomery

    Love this!

  • Zog

    “Don’t coach your lady friend.” That’s funny! Very true…and very funny, I don’t care who you are. Nice work Cody

  • Invictus Coach

    Nice post Cody. Personally, I love working out with my wife.


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